Why work hard? Why spend days doing research and hunkered down in the studio? Why go to the gym? Why spend hours a day training? Why read? Why write? Why wake up at 5:30 every morning?
For myself. Duh, who else?
I don’t do this for anyone but myself. There’s no one I need to try and please by doing these things. At the end of the day, I’m doing this for myself. It’s my life and I’m going to make it my best one.
I don’t wake up at 5:30 every morning so my parents can think: “Wow we raised our sun so well he can wake up early in the morning.” I do it because I want to. The affirmation is a biproduct, not the driving factor.
This takes determination. It needs work ethic. Nothing is easy when it comes to doing things just for yourself. Regardless of how strong you think your mental fortitude is, you’d be surprised how easy it is to fall off your rhythm a few days into your new ‘lifestyle’ of waking up early, getting shit done and leading a productive and intentional life. Lots of people like to think that they have determination. Really, they don’t. Their only determination is to finish what they’re doing before the deadline. Once that deadline passes, they forget the whole project and ignore everything else. They do it just to get it done.
That’s not determination and its not work ethic either. It’s scrambling, frantically. Kind of like the meerkats in The Lion King when the hyenas show up.
Cutting corners or taking the easy way out wont benefit you and it won’t help me. What do you learn by skipping over the most valuable information just to get the job done? In case you’re a little clueless, I’ll let you know.
Cutting corners and taking the easy way out is a lot like cheating on yourself. You may not realize it’s happening in the moment but when you look back and reflect on that time and why your life is messed up now, you realize that you cheated on your proverbial self. Shit happens. Life sucks.
You try and console yourself, saying you wont do it again, it was a one time thing, that you were stressed out and running purely on cold McDonalds coffee and you weren’t thinking.
And if life sucks then spin it around, stomp it into the ground and do something about it. I’m living my life, with my own goals and my own choices. I can choose what I want to spend my time on. Where things may be thrust into my lap that I can’t control, I can control how I react to those things. I actively choose not to let anyone else’s opinion of me or what I do, dictate how I lead my life. At the end of the day, I’m doing it for me.
I say NO more than I ever used to. I used to be a kind of YES man, because I thought that if I said no, I’d be missing out. Until I came to the understanding that missing out wasn’t a real thing, it was all mental, I was controlled by the choices I made between myself and pleasing others.
I say no, for my own benefit. Not because I don’t want to go out or get drinks or have brunch somewhere. I want to focus on the things that are crucially important to me. My life. My work. There’s nothing wrong with that. If someone happens to have an issue with that, maybe they need to step back and re-evaluate who they’re really doing it for.
Like I’ve said before you need to take care of yourself first and foremost, that’s the most important. If you fail too, that then you’re failing at life. But that isn’t set in stone, you can spin it around and change how you prioritize things. I did. I traded nights out drinking for nights in, working, creating and bettering myself.
Do I have regrets?
Nope. None at all.