Do you ever look at someone and think…
“Damn. They’ve got their shit together.”
I’m sure you have. Everyone does it, we just don’t think about it.
In the hustle and bustle of the 21st Century we’ve become so accustomed to being workhorses 24/7. We never stop. Seeing people who somehow have the ability to work twenty-hour days and still function as humans are a marvel to us mortals who can barely get by with eight hours of paid work. We think that, because this other person seems to be doing alright and we’re not, they must have their shit together and we don’t.
All their eggs are lined up in a basket. All their assets are in order.
They’re what we call…
A put together person.
In truth, having your shit together isn’t THAT hard. People have some premonition that others with their shit together are a rarity. Personally, I’d say I have my shit together and that’s without the stain of cockiness or vanity. I understand myself. Some people don’t and there’s nothing wrong with that.
Having your shit together means more than just being able to work twenty hours a day and not sleeping and somehow eating shitty food and still staying thin and making it seem like money isn’t an issue.
You need to be careful of WHO and WHAT you expel your energy on. Sure, do something you love. That’s what all the successful entrepreneurs of the day seem to say. Do something you love and that you’re passionate about. Everything else wont matter. Which is good advice to an extent, but I believe they’re missing an important part.
Often, you’re spending time around people with such short-term goals that they end up holding you back from your extended, long term goals.
Do something you love.
If you’re struggling to meet your goals, maybe it’s the people that are the problem and not the goal. Having the maturity and the sense to tell yourself that working on your project is more important than going out to drink, is a huge step in the right direction towards being a more ‘put together’ person. You understand that in the grand scheme of things, your time is most important to you. So take advantage of that time.
Secondly, a routine is crucially important, at least for me.
I’m the type of person who has expectations of their day. There are certain things that I want to do and want to happen. I’ll do my damn best to make sure that at the end of the day, I can check those things off a list. Yet having a routine in place is only beneficial if you actually follow it. And there are no hard and fast rules on what a routine has to entail. Mine consists of waking up at 5:30, working for an hour or an hour and a half after making a cup of coffee and then going to the gym. If I can hit all those things each day of the week, I’m a happy person.
The routine keeps a sense of rigidity and predictability to life, which is never a bad thing. I don’t let it control me. In fact, its become more a natural morning reflex and if there’s a day where I don’t make it to the gym, I can feel it. I feel different. Like there’s something on my list that’s unchecked. I feel restless and anxious.
Routine is crucially important.
Reading is another big thing that’s important to being a put together person. I don’t have a strict scheduled time each day to read, but I always try and hit at least twenty pages, often wherever I can. And if it means I have to stay up a little extra later just to get those pages in, so be it. It’s a therapeutic release and a beneficial part of my personal routine.
So you want to make a step to becoming a more put together person? Find a routine that jives with you and stick to it.
Minimalism was beneficial to understanding myself and feeling more cohesive and put together. It keeps the important things in focus, rather than the unimportant material objects. Minimalism showed me the benefits of positive thinking and focusing on myself and what I can control, rather than others and things I couldn’t.
I learned not to resent other people’s success.
I learned not to give up after the first failure.
I learned not expect immediate results for my endeavours.
I stopped trying to please everyone and focused on making myself happy.
I stopped fearing taking risks.
Try some of these.
I’m not saying that it will happen overnight. It’s not as if you can go to sleep and wake up with a whole new mindset and whole new way of thinking. This is something you need to work towards and even when you think you’ve found it, there are always ways to improve.
Even though I would consider myself fairly put together, I still make mistakes. I mess up. I’m not perfect. Acknowledging and feeling comfortable with this is another extremely important mindset to adopt.
So, don’t be afraid to make the leap and try. Instead of looking at the person across the room and cursing under your breath, wishing that YOU were that put together, look at them as a lesson. They did it, so surely you can to.
Strive to rule your life.
Stop living in someone else’s shadow.
Strive to understand what being confident and put together really means.
And don’t settle for anything less than what you feel you are capable of.