048_STAY FOCUSED

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Personal Development

Staying focused all the time is hard. Being productive all the time is hard.

Being consistent is hard.

There’s no bs around this at all. Being good at something is insanely difficult, that’s why those few who do get really good are praised like gods themselves. Yet to get to where they are now, they’ve spent years of focus, productivity and consistency, working away at their craft to get to this point. It’s not like it happened over night.

It’s risky, it’s scary and challenging. No doubt about that.

But there are ways that you can work towards it, acting focused with intention.

Focus + Intention = True Productivity.person taking picture of white spiral staircase

In no way at all would I say that I’m an expert on being focused or being productive. I may be able to come across as a consistent and productive person, but that’s because that’s the main thing that people see from me. Such is the lifestyle of going to school. You’re not around your peers and classmates all twenty-four hours in a day. I’m not a perfect human either! There are days when I don’t want to do anything, and I simply want to lie in bed and watch videos and sleep. And there’s nothing wrong with that.

It can help to practice how to act focused and intentional in the times that it matters, so you can earn those periods of rest.

From the moment you start something, whether it’s a new school project, writing that book you’ve always wanted to, making a short film or going to the gym, there are always obstacles that stand in your way. You may not have even left the house yet, but they’re there and they know you’re coming. The most popular ones often manifest themselves as rejection, lack of support and discouraging talk. A lot of the times to its our closest friends and family telling us these things.

“Come on, you know that will never work, be realistic.”

“I don’t think that’s the best idea.”

“Not today, maybe another time?”

There’s a lot of bravery involved in taking your own path, despite what everyone else says and trusting your gut. Like when I started writing this, putting my name on something and releasing it out into the world. How the hell was I going to know what others would think of this? I’ve never done anything like this in my life, so how could I know the outcome?

And even in the beginning there was pushback, no one really understood why I wanted to do this, or what it would do for me. Perhaps that’s something that only I can truly understand?

There will always be push back.two person standing on gray tile paving

Regardless, you need to keep these supporters close. That’s your rock, your foundation in staying focused. Having someone beside you who supports you, even if they don’t exactly understand what you’re doing. At the end of the day, these people want to see you succeed. Your parents, your siblings, your partner, boyfriend, girlfriend, grandparents…they want you to do well, regardless of the comments that they make the first time you tell them about what you’re doing. Don’t bother wasting your time on people who don’t support you and your idea, who bash it down within an instant of hearing it or simply have no authority to judge your actions.

You also need to understand that, no matter how smart you are, you’re not perfect and you don’t have all the answers. It’s liberating to think this way and can reduce the stress of what you’re doing. No one is expecting you to solve all their problems, even if you think that you can. You can’t, its humanly not possible. You’re not perfect and you don’t have all the answers. That’s the prime takeaway here.

You don’t always need to be right!

Criticism is a huge thing when you set out on your own, focused and ready to do your own thing. Yet criticism is the pitfall of so many people who start something and never continue. One bad comment, one bad review, one dislike can ruin their drive. That’s why staying focused is so important. It’s not one bad comment that matter, not even one hundred dislikes. You’re on this path, not them, so why should they matter? These dislikers’ and trolls have no place to dictate where your path takes you.

It helps to simply understand that, whatever you did wasn’t for them and there’s nothing you can do about that. It’s up to them to decide what they like and what they don’t. As long as someone else likes and supports what you’re doing, wouldn’t you rather spend your time and energy trying to add value to that one person rather than to make one hundred people dislike your stuff?

This is why focus is so important. You need to focus on who you are, where you’re going and why you’re doing what you’re doing. If you lose track of that, distracted by a negative comment, someone’s rejection or constantly striving to please everyone, you won’t make it very far.

Focus on you and focus on yourself.

With that mindset, you can’t go wrong.

 

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